Tuesday, July 13, 2010

establish Boudaries

Relationships work best when you establish boundaries and a budget up front. Ask. "where does this person belong in my life? How much am I prepared to invest in them?" Life's too short to be spent straightening out minunderstandings, hurt feeling and damaged egos. If you're wise you'll avoid any relationship that drains you and leaves you asking, "How did I get into this?" When keeping somebody happy means shortchanging the purposes of God in your life and losing your joy, you've overdrawn the budget. When somebody needs too many phone calls, dinner, loans, or other forms of attention, it's time to draw a line. You've only so much time and energy. You should invest your life where there's the greatest return. When people who are "to needy" demand more than you have the ability or the right to give, you've got to do one of two things: (1) Renegotiate, Bankrupting yourself to make them feel good might sound noble, but it's not. Bankrupt people end up with everything from nervous breakdowns to extramatital affairs because they're overspent. At this point, prayer, a good counselor, and tough love may be what's needed. (2) Sometimes you have to walk away!

14 comments:

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人生之中,比冒險更危險的一件事:不去冒險。..................................................

廖珮秋廖珮秋 said...

生存乃是不斷地在內心與靈魂交戰;寫作是坐著審判自己。..................................................

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It is no use crying over spilt milk.......................................................................

RicoLisi0802志竹 said...

時時關心,時時感動。..................................................

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肇戴佩 said...

Some people cannot see the wood for the trees.............................................................

雅王任 said...

你不能左右天氣,但你可以改變心情.................................................................

沈貞李添睿儀 said...

所有的資產,在不被諒解時,都成了負債..................................................................

陳昱陳延尹意 said...

一個人的價值,應該看他貢獻了什麼,而不是他取得了什麼............................................................

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君子遇窮困,則德益進,道益通。............................. ....................................

幸平平平平杰 said...

教育的目的,不在應該思考什麼,而是教吾人怎樣思考......................................................................

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