Tuesday, July 13, 2010

establish Boudaries

Relationships work best when you establish boundaries and a budget up front. Ask. "where does this person belong in my life? How much am I prepared to invest in them?" Life's too short to be spent straightening out minunderstandings, hurt feeling and damaged egos. If you're wise you'll avoid any relationship that drains you and leaves you asking, "How did I get into this?" When keeping somebody happy means shortchanging the purposes of God in your life and losing your joy, you've overdrawn the budget. When somebody needs too many phone calls, dinner, loans, or other forms of attention, it's time to draw a line. You've only so much time and energy. You should invest your life where there's the greatest return. When people who are "to needy" demand more than you have the ability or the right to give, you've got to do one of two things: (1) Renegotiate, Bankrupting yourself to make them feel good might sound noble, but it's not. Bankrupt people end up with everything from nervous breakdowns to extramatital affairs because they're overspent. At this point, prayer, a good counselor, and tough love may be what's needed. (2) Sometimes you have to walk away!

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